Bachelorette Party Planning

First off I don't think I blogged about my shower, but it was amazing! I don't think we got a lot of stuff in comparison to how many people were there, but it was nice nonetheless. We actually received 12 gift cards and 2 checks - so a lot of non-presents. I am still working on the Thank You Notes, but I have most of them out. The presents are split between my parents' house and my granny's house. My dad insisted on having presents at his house instead of having everything at my granny's house. My Granny has a whole empty room and my parents' house is full of clutter and dust, but you literally can't fight with my Dad. He was pissed that I wanted presents at my Granny's house.

So, we originally planned to have the bachelorette party on the 4th of July. Well, first at the shower my sister said that my cousin suggested having it on the 3rd because she thought the French Quarter would be too crowded on the 4th. Then we researched it and a large festival is that weekend so the Quarter will be terribly crowded the whole time!

So, they decided that we should change it to after the Bridal Tea on June 20th. I was worried because we never planned it for that day and I personally would still rather it be on the 4th of July weekend or just after the Rehearsal dinner or something. Mostly because I am taking one class this summer and my paper is due July 1st and June 20th will be just a wasted weekend in terms of school. But, have to have the people who are planning it happy and I can't always get my way so it has been changed to the 20th.

We originally thought we would just have the fun party at my cousin's house, but the Tea is in the city then we would have to go to the Westbank for the fun party then back across the river for dinner and going out. So my cousin said she wished we could do everything on the Eastbank. The tea is at a hotel that has decently priced rooms so I suggested we just get a suite there. So, my cousin booked a suite there for us to have the fun party at and for us to sleep at the night after. At first, my sister threw a hissy fit about this because she did not want to spend the money for a suite. She acted like she would have to pay for the whole suite. Ummm, no. Obviously it would at least be me, my cousin and my sister paying for it. Which wouldn't be that bad. And I think there will be more people. 2 of my friends from law school said they would come and I emphasized that we got a room so we could have a sleepover and they seemed excited. So hopefully everything will work out. I have a feeling that a couple of people wont come to the fun party because it is at a hotel and they would have to pay for parking or be dropped off, but oh well. I think the suite will be really fun and it is the same type of suite that I booked for the wedding and the night before the wedding so I will get to check it out before the wedding.

I also dropped the check off to the reception hall today. Everyone keeps asking me if I'm excited and I'm not really. I keep thinking that the floor is going to drop out from under me. This whole thing seems so surreal and I'm waiting for it to explode and not happen. When we left the reception hall, FI was like why aren't you excited you are the one who wanted all of this. That didn't help me at all. I know he wants to be married but I wish he would be a little excited about the actual wedding and reception. He says he wish we could have just gotten married when we decided we wanted to get married (a long time ago this was, way before we got engaged). He said he isn't even excited about the open bar at the reception. We went to one of his friend's weddings in May and he talked to the groom a good amount. I was surprised that the groom seemed so blah like this was just another obligation he had to do. I don't want the wedding to be an obligation or a burden on anyone. I want it be a fun and joyous occasion, I guess I'm just looking for a little joy out of him.

I'm wondering if its because no one is really that excited around me. They seem to think of my wedding as a burden instead of something awesome. I took this personality test at a place I used to work at and it said that I was an extrovert. They also said that what an extrovert means is that they get their energy from the people around them. I guess if the people around me were more excited I would be too.

Even at my shower it just seemed to be an obligation and a burden to most of the people there. Thats not what I want my wedding to be like.